Do Not Disturb: The Inside Story
Natalie Costa on How to Raise Resilient, Emotionally Smart Kids
Emotional resilience, parenting and the inner work adults bring into family life.
In this episode
Simona Deifta speaks with Natalie Costa in this filmed long-form episode of Do Not Disturb: The Inside Story. The conversation explores emotional resilience, parenting and the inner work adults bring into family life.
Themes in this conversation
- Raising emotionally resilient children
- Parenting and self-regulation
- How adults shape family emotional life
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Natalie Costa:
Hear the feeling beneath the behaviour
Before you fix the problem, does your child feel heard? Natalie Costa on feelings, behaviour and the conversations in between.
The Do Not Disturb edit
Three things to take with you.
Three ideas from the conversation, in our words.
Do
Make space to hear the emotion underneath a child’s behaviour.
Not
Rush to fix the problem before a child feels heard.
Disturb
The idea that a resilient child is simply a quiet, compliant one.
What is underneath the behaviour?
Natalie and Simona discuss children’s emotions and the urge adults can have to solve a problem immediately. Natalie talks about making room to hear the feeling before moving to a solution.
They look at confidence and resilience through everyday parenting conversations, including the moments when a child’s reaction is difficult to understand.
What comes up
- Helping children feel heard
- Emotions behind behaviour
- Confidence and everyday parenting
Keep the conversation going
Anna Mathur ↗
For the feelings parents bring into difficult moments.
Emily Oster ↗
For a calmer relationship with parenting advice and uncertainty.
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