Do Not Disturb: The Inside Story
Cat Sims on Breaking Cycles, Boundaries and the Truth about Motherhood
Boundaries, family patterns and the reality beneath modern motherhood.
In this episode
Simona Deifta speaks with Cat Sims in this filmed long-form episode of Do Not Disturb: The Inside Story. The conversation explores boundaries, family patterns and the reality beneath modern motherhood.
Themes in this conversation
- Breaking family cycles
- Boundaries in motherhood
- Naming what women carry quietly
Related conversations
Do Not Disturb · A podcast about motherhood
Cat Sims:
Name the work nobody sees
Cat on the work nobody notices, the resentment it can create and saying what you need before you reach your limit.
The Do Not Disturb edit
Three things to take with you.
Three ideas from the conversation, in our words.
Do
Put the invisible work into words before it becomes resentment.
Not
Carry everything silently and expect someone else to read your mind.
Disturb
The idea that a new mother’s boundaries are unkind.
Who is carrying the work nobody sees?
Cat and Simona discuss the planning, remembering and responsibility that can sit behind family life. They talk about putting that work into words, especially when one person has become used to carrying it.
The conversation also covers boundaries after becoming a mother and questioning family patterns you do not want to repeat.
What comes up
- Mental load and resentment
- Boundaries after becoming a mother
- Changing familiar family patterns
Keep the conversation going
Laura McGrath ↗
For the practical care mothers need beyond good intentions.
Becky Selbie ↗
For the internal rules that make asking for help feel difficult.
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