Do Not Disturb: The Inside Story
Becky Selbie
Therapist and Motherway founder Becky Selbie joins Simona Deifta for a candid conversation about matrescence, invisible labour and why capable women can still feel they are failing at motherhood.
A clear-eyed episode about the identity shift nobody prepares women for—and the relief that comes from questioning the perfect-mother rulebook.
Becky Selbie on Do Not Disturb
The Motherhood We Were Never Prepared For
Becky names the psychological transition into motherhood, the pressure high-achieving women place on themselves and why accepting help is not a personal failure. It is an essential conversation for any mother who has wondered why competence elsewhere did not make motherhood feel easier.
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A Conversation on Matrescence, Identity and Help
Listen for an honest framework for understanding perfectionism, resentment, invisible labour and the person a mother is becoming.
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The Guest Edit
DO — Make Room for the Transition
Treat matrescence as a real developmental shift. Give it language, time and support instead of expecting yourself to emerge unchanged.
NOT — Perform Perfect Motherhood
Stop giving energy to the fantasy that a good mother should cope quietly, intuitively and without asking for help.
DISTURB — The Rule That Capable Women Should Manage It All
Becky’s work disrupts the idea that struggle means failure. Often, the problem is not the mother—it is the expectation that she should absorb every change and every invisible task alone.
About Becky Selbie
Becky is a therapist specialising in maternal mental health and the founder of Motherway. Her work helps women understand matrescence, identity change, perfectionism and the emotional realities of becoming a mother.
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